The Ten Commandments | The Sixth Commandment
Read This
“You shall not commit adultery”
Exodus 20:14
Remember This
Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
Matthew 22:37-39
Think About This
The sixth commandment, especially when it is re-iterated about Jesus is not ultimately about what we do physically. It is about our mind, our body, and our soul. God desires sexual integrity for us whether we are single or married. This includes how we treat others, what we look at online, and our relationships with others.
God created us sex as a gift. He gives us instructions about his intention for that gift. While many want to make sex and sexuality a god, it is not the most important thing. And while others want to avoid it as though it were gross, God wants us to remember it is gift.
From the Small Catechism
“You shall not commit adultery”
What does this mean? We should fear and love God so that we lead a sexually pure and decent life in what we say and do, and husband and wife love and honor each other.
Meal Time
This kind of conversation is awkward, so let them express that. Ask them to tell you why they don’t like talking about this kind of thing with you. Then ask them if there are people they are comfortable talking to about it (affirm if there are people you trust that they talk to).
Drive Time
Sometimes your kids will feel more comfortable talking about what other people think. Use the categories of god, gross, or gift. Ask them what they most often see people treating sex/sexuality as. Ask them what they see with friends? On TV? Online?
Meal time
Read Matthew 5:27-32. Ask your kids “What damage can adultery do to a relationship?” If you’ve experienced that, talk about it. Also ask, “What are some steps you can take to protect your mind and your heart to have sexual integrity”?
Bed Time
There are hard subject when it comes to this subject. Pick one of the many hard subjects and ask your kids to tell you what they think. Some examples might be gender, sexuality, pornography. All of these are conversations worth having and guiding them to think biblically on. Sit and talk. Ask questions and speak into it.