The Ten Commandments | The Sixth Commandment
“You shall not commit adultery” – Exodus 20:14
God created us sex as a gift. He gives us instructions about his intention for that gift. While many want to make sex and sexuality a god, it is not the most important thing. And while others want to avoid it as though it were gross, God wants us to remember it is gift.
Think About This
The sixth commandment, especially when it is re-iterated about Jesus is not ultimately about what we do physically. It is about our mind, our body, and our soul. God desires sexual integrity for us whether we are single or married. This includes how we treat others, what we look at online, and our relationships with others.
Parent Cue: Meal Time
This kind of conversation is awkward, so let them express that. Ask them to tell you why they don’t like talking about this kind of thing with you. Then ask them if there are people they are comfortable talking to about it (affirm if there are people you trust that they talk to).
From the Small Catechism
The Sixth Commandment:
Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.
What does this mean? We should fear and love God so that we lead a sexually pure and decent life in what we say and do, and husband and wife love and honor each other.
There are hard subject when it comes to this subject. Pick one of the many hard subjects and ask your kids to tell you what they think. Some examples might be gender, sexuality, pornography. All of these are conversations worth having and guiding them to think biblically on. Sit and talk. Ask questions and speak into it.
Sometimes your kids will feel more comfortable talking about what other people think. Use the categories of god, gross, or gift. Ask them what they most often see people treating sex/sexuality as. Ask them what they see with friends? On TV? Online?
Read Matthew 5:27-32. Ask your kids “What damage can adultery do to a relationship?” If you’ve experienced that, talk about it. Also ask, “What are some steps you can take to protect your mind and your heart to have sexual integrity”?